12:26 pm - Thu, Jul 19, 2012
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luciaclin:

blogilates:

TRAIN LIKE A BEAST LOOK LIKE A BEAUTY TUMBLR GIVEAWAY!!!
Reblog this post and tell me which color # you like the best. I will pick a lucky ducky winner on Tues July 24th. If you want a better look at the colors, click here.
Work hard guys! Love u so much.
<3 Cassey

#1 (:

#5! Doing some online shopping on your website already…

luciaclin:

blogilates:

TRAIN LIKE A BEAST LOOK LIKE A BEAUTY TUMBLR GIVEAWAY!!!

Reblog this post and tell me which color # you like the best. I will pick a lucky ducky winner on Tues July 24th. If you want a better look at the colors, click here.

Work hard guys! Love u so much.

<3 Cassey

#1 (:

#5! Doing some online shopping on your website already…

12:33 pm - Thu, Jul 12, 2012
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fuckyeahfeminists:

sebhar:

ok4rj:

So you made a rape joke and now people are, like, really, really mad at you.  I’ll give you the benefit of the doubt; maybe you were at a party and the booze made your common sense slip away from you or maybe you were making what you viewed as a flippantly humorous remark on Facebook.  Either way, you probably didn’t mean any harm, right?  So what’s the big deal?

Okay, let me break it down for you in the gentlest way I know how.  (Lorde, give me strength!)

“I obviously think rape is wrong!   It was only a joke!  Cut me some slack, I’m one of the good guys.”

Most people don’t go around literally thinking, “Rape’s okay by me!”  I think I can muster enough faith in humanity to stand by that claim.  The problem is, even though most people don’t think rape is okay, so many people are still raped.  There’s obviously got to be some kind of disconnect happening here, most likely having to do with what people think consent looks like (if they’ve considered it at all).  When it comes down to it, I have no idea if rapists intend to rape, but in the end, the result is the same regardless of intention.
To clarify, I am in no way saying making a rape joke is the equivalent to raping someone.  I’m saying, as I’ve said before, I have no way of measuring your intentions; I can only observe the impacts of your actions.  Whether you meant to hurt someone or not, you did.  And you need to take a moment to grapple with that before you try to defend yourself.  If you’re really the good person that you claim to be, you will take that into consideration before you proceed.  If you want to be one of the good guys, show me, don’t tell me.

“Stop trying to censor me!”

This person is likely not trying to violate your First Amendment rights in any way, shape, or form.  More often than not, they are probably trying to inform you that you are doing something harmful so that you won’t do it again.  This is actually good because A) you won’t hurt any more people and B) you won’t look like a jerk in the future.  If they do get angry or frustrated with you, it’s probably because they’ve had to have this conversation with so many people over and over again; it can be quite exhausting and take an emotional toll on someone, especially if they’re survivors.

But if you really want further explanation, here it is: the First Amendment gives you the right to say pretty much whatever you want (with limitations that don’t necessarily apply to this particular situation).  The First Amendment also gives your peers the right to tell you to shut up, to shout over you, and to blow a kazoo in your face, if they like.   Now, if they try to arrest you and make a political prisoner out of you, that’s a clear violation of your rights and probably about a dozen other Federal laws, but I imagine it is likely that whoever you are arguing with does not have that kind of power.


“Language only has the power we give it!”

Yes, language is constructed.  We get that.  But meaning-making (and unmaking) is much more complicated than simply disregarding the power that decades and sometimes centuries of use have given to certain words.  Also, you also might come off as slightly pretentious for assuming that your (likely contrived and unoriginal, sorry) rape joke is somehow contributing to dissolving the power behind the word.  I’m not saying that to be mean! I’m just saying that you’re gonna look foolish, not just to the feminist that you’re likely arguing with, but also to semioticians.

“You’re just a humorless feminist!”

C’mon, dude, I was trying to be nice!  Here’s the deal: I love a good joke.  Follow me on Twitter; I’m pretty hilarious, if I do say so myself.  I use humor to cope with all kinds of things in the world that I think are fucked up; I would probably lose my mind if I didn’t crack jokes constantly.   Humor can not only be self-healing, but it can also be used to commiserate, uplift, and show solidarity.  It can be used to show pain, and it can even be used as a weapon against those who seek to oppress people.

But humor loses all potential for redemption when it is used in a way that makes marginalized, victimized people feel unsafe, unwanted, and invisible.  That is how I feel when you make a rape joke.  You made the worst, most heart-breaking, most disempowering trauma I have ever been through, and you made it into a joke.  You made my suffering into a punch line.  I hope that was not your intention, but those are the impacts of your words that you could have just as easily kept to yourself.

So what would I like you to do now?  I’d really appreciate an apology.  I’d really like for you to do your best not to do it again.  And if you’re a really brave person, I hope you speak up the next time one of your friends makes a rape joke.

This post was partially inspired by Judie’s awesome piece It’s Okay That You Said Something Racist and by a lot of the ongoing conversations many of us at OK4RJ have about rape culture.  If someone has had similar interactions with me online or in “real” life, don’t feel targeted.  I (sadly) have this conversation all the time.

I’m Sandra.  I’m a rape survivor.  I would really like you to stop making rape jokes.

I’m Hannah. I’m a rape survivor. I would really like you to stop making rape jokes. 

^ I’m with those people.

Rape jokes are NEVER okay.  My favorite quote from the Daily Beast Article:

There’s a distinction between making a joke to cope or to point out the absurdity of a situation and what Tosh did, consciously or not, which was to use humor to humiliate a woman who stood up for something she believed in.” 

1:16 pm - Tue, Jul 3, 2012
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fuckyeahfeminists:

My new favorite ad. See? Advertisement can be great without objectification or body shaming!

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Love this ad! “And then I just kept winning.” Women #maketherules

1:30 pm - Fri, Jun 29, 2012
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maya-papaya:

ilovecharts:

What it takes to make a quarter-pound hamburger. 

This is what I try to explain to people who don’t understand vegetarianism.

Proud to be a veggie (:

maya-papaya:

ilovecharts:

What it takes to make a quarter-pound hamburger

This is what I try to explain to people who don’t understand vegetarianism.

Proud to be a veggie (:

1:13 pm
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newsweek:

Hey, Ladies! Check out the Crucial Benefits of Obamacare.

Yesterday’s ruling on the Affordable Care Act was a “supreme win for women,” as our story by Jessica Arons, the director of the Women’s Health and Rights Program at the Center for American Progress, helpfully explains.

Here’s the deal:

  • As of 2014, “gender rating”—where insurers can charge women higher premiums than men—becomes illegal in all new individual and small group plans.
  • Currently only 12 percent of plans sold in the individual market offer maternity coverage. Once the Affordable Care Act is fully implemented, about 8.7 million women will have guaranteed access to maternity and newborn care in all new individual and small group plans.
  • It’s common in today’s market for insurers to refuse to cover women because of gender-based “preexisting conditions.” These conditions can include issues such as having had breast cancer or a Caesarean section or having been a victim of domestic violence or sexual assault. This practice, too, will be outlawed under Obamacare in 2014.
  • Under Obamacare, insurers are now required to cover critical preventive services such as mammograms, Pap smears, and well-baby care without cost sharing.
  • In addition, starting this August, more services specifically for women will be added to the list of preventive care that must be covered at no additional cost. That list includes contraception, gestational diabetes screening, breastfeeding counseling and equipment, annual well-woman care (in other words, a visit to the OB-GYN), and screening and counseling for domestic violence and sexually transmitted infections, including HIV and the human papillomavirus.
  • Other benefits for women include the ability to see their OB-GYN without a referral, guaranteed breaks and a private space for nursing moms to pump breast milk while at work, and home visiting programs for at-risk new mothers.

Pretty wild, right?  There’s more.

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This is so awesome. Thank you, SCOTUS. 
12:10 pm - Wed, Jun 27, 2012
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fuckyeahawesomefood:

White Chocolate Chip Macadamia Nut Cookies.

Why yes, I would love to reblog my own submission. 

fuckyeahawesomefood:

White Chocolate Chip Macadamia Nut Cookies.

Why yes, I would love to reblog my own submission. 

1:25 am - Tue, Jun 26, 2012
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merelyamatterofcoffee:

barackobama:

Just press play.

They are so stinking cute.

What an adorable couple. #thingsthatmakemehappy

1:17 am
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(image via fuckyeahfeminists)
It&#8217;s impossible to control this. What IS reasonable suspicion? Who&#8217;s to say all law enforcement won&#8217;t let racial profiling affect their demands, consciously or subconsciously? Hopefully once a case goes up through Arizona to SCOTUS, the SC will redefine their decision through a court case and realize how ridiculous SB 1070 is, and re-interpret this through a new lens. 
If you want some humor today in light of all of this, check out Arizona Governor Jan Brewer's press conference and her witty answers to journalists&#8217; questions&#8230;
or GOP Presidential Candidate Mitt Romney&#8217;s statement which showcases his ardent views supporting immigration reform. Not.

(image via fuckyeahfeminists)

It’s impossible to control this. What IS reasonable suspicion? Who’s to say all law enforcement won’t let racial profiling affect their demands, consciously or subconsciously? Hopefully once a case goes up through Arizona to SCOTUS, the SC will redefine their decision through a court case and realize how ridiculous SB 1070 is, and re-interpret this through a new lens. 

If you want some humor today in light of all of this, check out Arizona Governor Jan Brewer's press conference and her witty answers to journalists’ questions…

or GOP Presidential Candidate Mitt Romney’s statement which showcases his ardent views supporting immigration reform. Not.

(Source: rox-c-rox)

1:05 am
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mohandasgandhi:

capture-it-remember-it13:

PLEASE READ
This is my friend and her girlfriend. The girl on the right was killed last night, by what is thought to be a hate crime. They were on a date. They were both shot and dumped in tall grass. They were found this morning by a couple while they were out for a walk. (This is all we know right now)Mollie has passed but her girlfriend, Kristene, is still alive. She is in very critical condition with a gunshot wound to the head. Please pray for her. Think about them. Pass this on. Something. Please. We need her to come through so the people that did this can be put in their rightful spot.  
You will always be Loved and never forgotten, Mollie.Rest in Peace, Sweetheart.&lt;3 And since I just got messages saying this was fake, here’s the article: http://www.kiiitv.com/story/18864976/update 

I don’t normally reblog stuff like this but this really got to me. What a terrible thing it is that love can inspire so much hatred inside of someone.

Please pray, if you don&#8217;t pray- cross your fingers, find a four-leaf clover, whatever floats your boat. Kristene needs us right now.

mohandasgandhi:

capture-it-remember-it13:

PLEASE READ

This is my friend and her girlfriend. The girl on the right was killed last night, by what is thought to be a hate crime. They were on a date. They were both shot and dumped in tall grass. They were found this morning by a couple while they were out for a walk. (This is all we know right now)
Mollie has passed but her girlfriend, Kristene, is still alive. She is in very critical condition with a gunshot wound to the head. Please pray for her. Think about them. Pass this on. Something. Please. We need her to come through so the people that did this can be put in their rightful spot.  

You will always be Loved and never forgotten, Mollie.
Rest in Peace, Sweetheart.<3 

And since I just got messages saying this was fake, here’s the article: http://www.kiiitv.com/story/18864976/update 

I don’t normally reblog stuff like this but this really got to me. What a terrible thing it is that love can inspire so much hatred inside of someone.

Please pray, if you don’t pray- cross your fingers, find a four-leaf clover, whatever floats your boat. Kristene needs us right now.

(Source: loveheartsnotparts)

6:57 pm - Thu, Jun 21, 2012
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barackobama:

Ready to join the fight for equal pay?

I was born ready. (:

barackobama:

Ready to join the fight for equal pay?

I was born ready. (:

(via lipstick-feminists)

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